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God chooses what we go through. We choose how we go through it.

Archive for the month “January, 2010”

The Pearly Gates

A man dies and goes to heaven. Of course, St. Peter meets him at the pearly gates.

St. Peter says, “Here’s how it works. You need 100 points to make it into heaven. You tell me all the good things you’ve done, and I give you a certain number of points for each item, depending on how good it was. When you reach 100 points, you get in.”

“Okay,” the man says, “I was married to the same woman for 50 years and never cheated on her, even in my heart.”

“That’s wonderful,” says St. Peter, “that’s worth three points!”

“Three points?” he says. “Well, I attended church all my life and supported its ministry with my tithe and service.”

“Terrific!” says St. Peter, “that’s certainly worth a point.”

“One point? Golly. How about this; I started a soup kitchen in my city and worked in a shelter for homeless veterans.”

“Fantastic, that’s good for two more points, ” he says.

“TWO POINTS!!” the man cries, “At this rate the only way I’ll get into heaven is by the grace of God!”

“Come on in!”



Family is family, no matter what you are going through.  We all need family no matter how much we may believe that not to be the case.  Family is about blood and blood is as they say, thicker than water.  Family is about loving even in times of disagreement and discontent.  It’s about caring even when it’s last on your want to do list.  Family is not just about birth relations, it’s about much much more.  Family is a feeling, a comfort level, a wanting to be a part of and to be with.  Family is more than just about money, grades, stuff, feelings, jealousies and miss trusts.  Family is never perfect, none ever are.  It’s about forgiveness, helping, needing, growing up, learning, sharing, making mistakes and saying “I’m sorry” and “I love you”.  Family is about life.  Life has its ups and downs; family has its ups and downs.  Family is about accepting, no matter what.  It’s about reunions and shared experiences and stories that last through generations.  Nothing perfect, that’s what family is. Us!        


“Families are like fudge – mostly sweet with a few nuts.”



“The family.  We were a strange little band of characters trudging through life sharing diseases and toothpaste, coveting one another’s desserts, hiding shampoo, borrowing money, locking each other out of our rooms, inflicting pain and kissing to heal it in the same instant, loving, laughing, defending, and trying to figure out the common thread that bound us all together.”

                                                                                                            Erma Bombeck


“To us, family means putting your arms around each other and being there.”

                                                                                                  Barbara Bush


“In time of test, family is best.”

                                                                    Burmese Proverb


I’ll be Talking

Seminar – New Summit School

Parenting Seminar – 4 Sessions

New Summit School – Jackson, MS

February 16 & 23 & March 2 & 9  6:15pm – 7:30 pm

Closed to Public



Divorce is a sad event.  It’s a situation where no one wins; husband, wife, children, brothers and sisters, grandparents, relatives or friends.  It’s a family being pulled apart for whatever reason.  A new and unchartered day for those involved.  A time to change the way things were, are and will be.  A time of changed living arrangements, strained relationships and trusts misused.  Where do you stand in all this family change and reorganization?  Will you be a leader?  Will you be just a survivor or be a thriver?  A peacemaker?  An overcomer?  There will be enough hurt to go around many times over.  Your best will now be required.  Amongst all the negativity will you be a star of positivity?  Compromise will now need to rule the day.  Whatever happens, however it happens you need to rise above the fray and realize that you are still family, no matter how disjointed or damaged.  Do all you can, all the time, with all that you possess to get along, to still find love and to cherish the family you now find yourself living in.    

     “A divorce is like an amputation: you survive it, but there’s less of you.”  Margaret Atwood

“Divorce is the psychological equivalent of a triple coronary by-pass.  After such a monumental assault on the heart, it takes years to amend all the habits and attitudes that led up to it.”      Mary Kay Blakely

“Divorce: The past tense of marriage.”    Unknown


Important Words

The 10 Most Important Words

“You can accomplish almost anything you set your mind to”

 The 9 Most Important Words

“You determine who you want to become in life”

 The 8 Most Important Words

“Love is about giving and not about receiving”

 The 7 Most Important Words

“Relationships are what make your life meaningful”

 The 6 Most Important Words

“God wants a relationship with you”

 The 5 Most Important Words

“I am proud of you”

 The 4 Most Important Words

“I care about you”

 The 3 Most Important Words

“I love you”

“You are special”

 The 2 Most Important Words

“Thank You”

“I’m Sorry”

 The Most Important Word


 The Least Important Word


 By James Cruise


My Favorite Bible Verse

Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.  Romans 12:12


Kid$ kNOw

Dear Dad,
$chool i$ really great. I am making lot$ of friend$ and $tudying very hard. With all my $tuff, I $imply can`t think of anything I need. $o if you would like, you can ju$t $end me a card, a$ I would love to hear from you.
Your $on

The Reply:

Dear Son,

I kNOw that astroNOmy, ecoNOmics, and oceaNOgraphy are eNOugh to keep even an hoNOr student busy. Do NOt forget that the pursuit of kNOwledge is a NOble task, and you can never study eNOugh.


Prayer for Those Going Through Difficult Times

Father, I desire that when I am going through difficult times or tragedy that I would realize that you wish for me to come closer to you, not move further away from you.  That I would indeed draw closer to you, dear God!  I pray that I will allow you to wrap your loving arms around me.  To give me not only the comfort and strength that I need in my tough times, but that you will guide me in the proper direction as I seek to find new meaning and purpose in my altered life. That I will not forget the good that has come into my life and that I will remember that you will never hurt me and you only want the very best for me.  I pray that you will love and heal me.  I praise your mighty name.  In Jesus’ name I Thank You.   Amen


10 Ways to be a Better Single Parent to Your Children

  1. Respect your children.
  2. Show affection to your children.
  3. Spend quality time with your children – every day.
  4. Eat together as a family.
  5. Be a role model.  Your actions speak louder than your words.
  6. Make spiritual things a priority.
  7. Discipline with love and caring.
  8. Be proactive.  Plan, plan, plan.  Don’t wait for things to happen and then try to fix them.  Try not to let them happen in the first thing.
  9. Seek help and assistance.
  10. See things through your children’s eyes.


Bitterness is about you.  It’s all about you.  You may think it’s about the other person, but it’s not.  They’ve probably moved on from whatever has happened.  They probably don’t even think about it anymore.  They aren’t letting it consume their life.  They’ve already learned one of life’s most valuable lessons.  Life is short.  Life is about forgiveness.  Bitterness can consume you, tear you apart from the inside, ruin your days, and destroy your health.  Bitterness is not for you, no not you.  Forgiveness is the path for you.  Moving on is for you.  Working things out is for you.  Getting over it is for you.  Life is too short to let someone else ruin your life, rain on your parade.  What a great lesson to learn.   

 “Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host.”

                                                                                          Maya Angelou

 “Bitterness imprisons life; love releases it. Bitterness paralyzes life; love empowers it. Bitterness sours life; love sweetens it. Bitterness sickens life; love heals it. Bitterness blinds life; love anoints its eyes.”

                                                                                                     Harry Fosdick



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