In marrying another person, they are also marrying your entire family.
Step-family relationships take time to develop, up to five years or more. Some never do develop.
Love relationships don’t always develop between step-parents and step-children.
Coming together as a step-family is a slow and steady process. Absolutely no quick fixes here.
The remarriage divorce rate is 60%. Wow! Don’t ignore this fact.
Get pre-marital counseling to educate you about step-family life and the struggles you are likely to experience.
* Before deciding to marry again, you and your “maybe future spouse” (step-parent to your children) both must read “The Smart Step-Family” by Ron L. Deal
A MUST READ! Gotta do! Can’t skip! It’s that important! Do I make my point?
Keep in mind that real step-family life begins with marriage, not dating.
Your love relationship with your new mate will be the weakest link in your new step-family household.
Many, many adjustments have to be made by everyone: parents, step-parents, children, step-children, grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, neighbors and others. Even in the best of situations.
Some things that must be negotiated, changed, adapted, worked out:
- Family traditions
- Family rules
- Living location
- Family budget
Before marrying again talk with severalstep-parents.
“No matter how desperately you want your stepfamily to be like biological families, it is not.”
Ron L. Deal