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Archive for the month “November, 2012”


To move forward with your healing, have you forgiven where you need to forgive?  Who do you need to forgive?

Things to remember about forgiveness:

Forgiveness is not easy

It is not a one time event

You do it because God commands it

It doesn’t mean forgetting

And when you stand praying , if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him,  Mark 11:25

“Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me?  Up to seven times?”  Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”    Matthew 18:21-22

forgiveness move on


Single Parents Retreat/Rally

February 8-9, 2013

First Baptist Church – Biloxi, Mississippi

I’ll be speaking. Inspiring single parents how to not only survive, but thrive as single parents. How to be a “Onesy in a Twosy World”. Register today! Only $12 per person or $20 with T-Shirt. Receive a  “Become a Super Single Parent” Workbook at the event.

Scholarships to be given away at event. Child care is available for ages 2 – 12 years old. Registration ends February 1, 2013. All single parents welcome.

Your Children Are Watching

Your children may not verbally thank you for your efforts but they are watching and they are seeing how you respond to tough times.  Your actions and emotions during stressful times will be remembered.

Your Ex-Spouse —Do’s and Don’ts

Here are some things to don’t do concerning you, your ex-spouse and your children.  How are you doing?   Rate yourself.

___  Use kids to deliver messages or materials

___  Talk negatively about your ex-spouse

___  Discuss the kid’s issues in front of the kids

___  Underestimate their importance to your kids

___  Blame them for 100% of all that’s happened

___  Be sucked into power plays

___  Try to tell your kids how to feel about them

Your Ex-Spouse —Do’s and Don’ts

Here are some things to do concerning you, your ex-spouse and your children.  How are you doing?   Rate yourself.

___  Encourage each other to be involved

___  Try to share decisions and responsibilities

___  Act appropriately around the children

___  Focus on the children—not your past

___  Say “thank you” to your ex-spouse

___  Stay positive about ex when talking to kids

___  Be a positive role model




A Peace-filled Single Parent

It’s important to remember that during the holiday season and beyond, one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself and your children is the gift of you as a peaceful and peace-filled single parent and household. Peace comes from the word of God and with talking regularly with God. Go to Him today and each and every day of this holiday season.

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.   Romans 15:13

A Helpful Read for Tough Times and the Holidays

Holidays are best celebrated with family and friends. No matter what your family and friends now look like. This book, “Thriving at the Holidays” by Heather Hetchler & Gayla Grace is just what the doctor ordered for you if you are a single parent or living in a step-family these holidays. Give it a read, I did and it gave me a wonderful and insightful perspective as how to work my way through the holidays.

Happy Thanksgiving from James Cruise Ministries

To our most awesome and loving God on this day of Thanksgiving we give Him Thanks and Praise. Happy Thanksgiving from James Cruise Ministries!

Holidays – Never the Same

After times of loss of a loved one or a divorce the holidays take on a whole new perspective. Because of your loss, the holidays will never be the same again. It is difficult to anticipate how difficult every holiday after that loss will be. You will probably be overcome with all types of emotions as you work your way through the holidays.  The holidays represent traditions for you and your family. Now is not a time to wallow about the past and the what if’s. This holiday season is your time to live in the “here and now” and to begin new and loving traditions for you and your family.

Christmas Trees

Apparently the White House referred to Christmas Trees as “Holiday Trees” for the first time this year which prompted CBS presenter, Ben Stein, to present this piece which I would like to share with you. I think it applies just as much to many countries as it does to America . . .

The following was written by Ben Stein and recited by him on CBS Sunday Morning Commentary.

My confession:
I am a Jew, and every single one of my ancestors was Jewish. And it does not bother me even a little bit when people call those beautiful lit up, bejewelled trees, Christmas trees. I don’t feel threatened. I don’t feel discriminated against. That’s what they are, Christmas trees.

It doesn’t bother me a bit when people say, “Merry Christmas” to me. I don’t think they are slighting me or getting ready to put me in a ghetto. In fact, I kind of like it. It shows that we are all brothers and sisters celebrating this happy time of year. It doesn’t bother me at all that there is a manger scene on display at a key intersection near my beach house in Malibu. If people want a crib, it’s just as fine with me as is the Menorah a few hundred yards away.

I don’t like getting pushed around for being a Jew, and I don’t think Christians like getting pushed around for being Christians. I think people who believe in God are sick and tired of getting pushed around, period. I have no idea where the concept came from, that America is an explicitly atheist country. I can’t find it in the Constitution and I don’t like it being shoved down my throat.

Or maybe I can put it another way: where did the idea come from that we should worship celebrities and we aren’t allowed to worship God? I guess that’s a sign that I’m getting old, too. But there are a lot of us who are wondering where these celebrities came from and where the America we knew went to.

In light of the many jokes we send to one another for a laugh, this is a little different: This is not intended to be a joke; it’s not funny, it’s intended to get you thinking.

Billy Graham’s daughter was interviewed on the Early Show and Jane Clayson asked her: “How could God let something like this happen?” (regarding Hurricane Katrina). Anne Graham gave an extremely profound and insightful response. She said: “I believe God is deeply saddened by this, just as we are, but for years we’ve been telling God to get out of our schools, to get out of our government and to get out of our lives. And being the gentleman He is, I believe He has calmly backed out. How can we expect God to give us His blessing and His protection if we demand He leave us alone?”

In light of recent events… terrorists attack, school shootings, etc. I think it started when Madeleine Murray O’Hare (she was murdered, her body found a few years ago) complained she didn’t want prayer in our schools, and we said OK. Then someone said you better not read the Bible in school. The Bible says thou shalt not kill, thou shalt not steal, and love your neighbour as yourself. And we said OK.

Then Dr. Benjamin Spock said we shouldn’t spank our children when they misbehave, because their little personalities would be warped and we might damage their self-esteem (Dr. Spock’s son committed suicide). We said an expert should know what he’s talking about. And we said okay.

Now we’re asking ourselves why our children have no conscience, why they don’t know right from wrong, and why it doesn’t bother them to kill strangers, their classmates, and themselves.

Probably, if we think about it long and hard enough, we can figure it out. I think it has a great deal to do with ‘WE REAP WHAT WE SOW.’

Funny how simple it is for people to trash God and then wonder why the world’s going to hell. Funny how we believe what the newspapers say, but question what the Bible says. Funny how you can send ‘jokes’ through e-mail and they spread like wildfire, but when you start sending messages regarding the Lord, people think twice about sharing. Funny how lewd, crude, vulgar and obscene articles pass freely through cyberspace, but public discussion of God is suppressed in the school and workplace.

Are you laughing yet?

Funny how when you forward this message, you will not send it to many on your address list because you’re not sure what they believe, or what they will think of you for sending it.

Funny how we can be more worried about what other people think of us than what God thinks of us.

Pass it on if you think it has merit.

If not, then just discard it…. no one will know you did. But if you discard this thought process, don’t sit back and complain about what bad shape the world is in.

My Best Regards, Honestly and respectfully,

Ben Stein

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