Understanding Your Child’s Pain
When your children lose a parent, their security blanket has been snatched away.
Their trust in you and their other parent has been broken. It may take a long time before they trust either of you again.
Their emotions are all in turmoil. They don’t know what to think or believe anymore.
Your children are hurting; no matter what they tell you, their age or maturity.
They can exhibit wide mood swings from lashing out in anger one moment to curled up in their bedroom feeling hurt and unloved.
Normal changes in growing up are hard enough on your children. Add to those changes, changes in their daily lives due to the loss of a parent or a divorce leaves these changes almost impossible for your children to bear and overcome.
Your child’s feelings of self worth are dependent on your child’s feelings of security.
When your child’s physical living arrangements, his room, his home, his siblings, are changed he loses his stability.
To help your children overcome their pain you must tell them over and over again how much you love them.
They need your assurance that you will be there for them no matter what and that everything will be alright.
Your children need you to stay positive and upbeat, smile a lot and keep a sense of humor. Act as much as you can like you did before the changes.
“I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts,there can be no more hurt, only more love.” Mother Teresa