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Archive for the month “August, 2013”

Faith and You – Part 3

Read God’s word daily and with your children, if possible.

Do all you can to take your children “by thee hands and lead them in the ways of the Master”   Ephesians 6:4

Does the way you treat your children glorify God?

As you first go through your new life as a single parent you will probably find that your faith is not what you thought it was.  You will question God, yourself, your children and others in your life.  You will question them ALL.  Eventually everyone does.

But as you work through your new found single parent life your faith in God, in yourself, in your children and in others will grow and become stronger.

Faith inscription on a granite block


Faith and You – Part 2

Your influence and behavior as your children’s parent is critical to your children’s spiritual development.

Even though, you may doubt God’s presence in your life.  He is watching over you and deeply interested in you and your children’s situation.

Give it everything you’ve got and trust God to get you through.

You must have a personal relationship with God.

You are right where God can change you.

“Be the Christ-like example your children need.”  Ron L. Deal

Faith inscription on a granite block

Faith and You – Part 1

Communication with God is a good first step.  You will certainly find the guidance you need.

Try to keep your eyes on God whatever happens.

God sees the whole picture, He knows everything.

You must intentionally create a culture of faith within your home for the sake of your children’s well being.

Without a personal relationship with God, your tough times will be even tougher.

If you will listen to God’s voice and do what is right in His eyes, He will heal you – He will make you whole again.

“A faith untested, is no faith at all.”

Faith inscription on a granite block

Accepting A Little Help

Don’ try to go it alone as a single parent.

You won’t make it as a single parent going it alone.

Single parents need a little help from their friends, relatives, workmates, neighbors and church friends from time to time.

Be brave enough to accept a little help.

You must accept help.

Alternate taking care of another single parent’s children.

When you need help three of the most important words in your vocabulary are now – ASK, ASK & ASK…

It’s really is OK to ask for help.

“The healthy and strong individual is the one

who asks for help when he needs it,

whether he’s got an abscess on his knee or in his soul.”

                                                                                                Rona Barrett


Invite New People into Your Life

As a single parent you need to find some new friends that are also single parents.

People who are also on your single parent journey.

It seems challenging?  It isn’t.

Find a few new friends with similar interest to yours.

Don’t sit around feeling sorry for yourself.

Surround yourself with people that like you and are supportive.

Look for organized groups of single parents like yourself.

The church is a great place to find new friends.

Entertain other single parents at your home.

Let it be known that you are wanting new friends.

Just introduce yourself.

Just say “Hello”   It’s that easy.

“The best time to make friends is before you need them.”  Ethel Barrymore

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I’m Sorry

Learn these words well – I’m sorry.

Say them when you need to.

Use them often.

Remember no one is perfect, that means both you and your children.

Your children know you’re not perfect – don’t try to make them think you are.

Children can overcome our faults when we ourselves are able to admit out faults to them.

Saying “I’m sorry” takes courage and humility.

Teach your children to say “I’m Sorry”.

Your children need to know the importance of “I’m Sorry”.

Strong people use I’m Sorry, weak people don’t.


When you goof-up, apologize by saying:

1. I’m sorry

2. It was my fault

3. How do I make it right

                                                                                         Randy Pausch

I'm Sorry



Climb Your Mountain

Single parents never give up on your single parent journey. It’s like climbing a mountain, it’s rough! Never stop learning how to single parent. You should read books, attend parenting classes, check out blogs, YouTube videos, websites, conferences and seminars for single parents. They say just reading 3 books will make you an expert on any subject.

Recommended Book – Divorce

Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends by Dr. Bruce Fisher

“How does he know exactly what I’m feeling?”

That’s what most readers say about Rebuilding. If you’re hurting after a divorce, you need this supportive step-by-step program for putting your life back together. This book offers just the right balance of shoulder-to-cry and kick-in-the-pants to help you get through the confusing and often – painful process of divorce.

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The Birdcage – Jesus Cares


Reprimanding Your Children

Tough love is true love.

Don’t raise your voice.

Explain the rules and boundaries – before hand.

Explain the consequences – before hand.

Follow through.

Explain how you feel about what they did.

Reprimanding should be a teaching experience, not a punishment experience.

Do it because you love them.  Provide loving discipline.

Reprimanding for the sheer sake of punishment is never alright.

Timeouts are useful if used correctly.

Reprimanding is the same as disciplining.

Reprimanding and punishment are not the same thing.

Consequences for bad behavior maintain good behaviors.

Your goal is to teach your children to self-discipline themselves.

When you discipline your children you want them to feel bad about their misbehavior – but good about themselves.

“The more children like themselves.

 The more they like to behave themselves.”

Spencer Johnson, M.D.

For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. Hebrews 12:11 ESV



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