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Archive for the month “August, 2013”

Memories – Make New Ones

No matter what your situation in life is now.

It’s time to move forward again!

When you move forward you make new memories.

But you have to move forward.

Making new memories can be fun!  Surprise, surprise…

There is nothing wrong with old memories.  It’s just that new memories are needed now.

You need new memories.  Your children also need new memories.  You both need new memories together.

New memories can be just as precious as your old memories.

Get the focus off of what no longer is and pave the way to building new memories.

Transform a day of painful reminders into a day of pleasant memories.


“A memory is what is left when something happens and

  does not completely unhappen.”    Edward de Bono


“So live that your memories will be part of your happiness.”  Unknown







Enjoy Life– Single Parent Style

So life has thrown you a curve ball, so what?  You still can and must enjoy your new life situation.

Life is short – live yours and your children’s to the fullest.

Every single day…

SMILE and now SMILE some more.  Now doesn’t that feel good?

Just because you are single doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy life.

Don’t take life too seriously.  God has a sense of humor.  He made your children, didn’t he!

The definition of enjoy is to take pleasure or satisfaction in, to have a good time.

Every day as a single parent is an exciting new adventure.


“The really happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery when on a detour.”


“Enjoy what you can, endure what you must.”

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Emergencies – Single Parents Style

Emergencies are a part of life.  They WILL happen!

Be ready and prepared – ALWAYS.

Have a list of emergency contact information with all phone numbers. NOW!  Before the emergency happens!

  • Yours
  • Your children’s other parent (if one)
  • Each child’s cell phone
  • 911
  • Doctors
  • Dentist
  • Automobile tow service
  • Automobile repair service

Make several copies of your emergency list and give it to those who need it.  NOW!

  • Refrigerator door
  • Family bulletin board by phone
  • Your purse or wallet
  • Each child (that is old enough to read)
  • Your children’s other parent (if one)
  • Your children (in their wallets or backpacks)
  • Nearest relatives
  • A trusted neighbor
  • A trusted work mate
  • Your children’s school

Place this list on the refrigerator door or bulletin board.

Teach your children what to do in an emergency.

Teach them about dialing 911.

Be sure your children have your cell phone and work phone numbers.  Have the numbers on auto-dial.

Program emergency phone numbers into your and your children’s cell phones.

Practice fire drills so the children know the escape plan.

Have a first-aid kit.  Show the children where it is and how to use it.

Keep a signed and notarized Medical Permission to Treat Form listing each child’s name handy and show your children where it is located.  Most doctors and hospitals require one of these permission forms before they will treat your child if you are not present.





Eating Out – Single Parent Style

It’s the most expensive way to feed you and your children.

Avoid fast-food restaurants, as much as possible.

Always choose the healthier choice on the menu.

Some restaurants offer discounts on early eating times.  Use them whenever possible.

If it is not in the budget – don’t eat out.

If you have young children, eat where they are free.

Drink water, it’s free, instead of expensive and calorie laden carbonated drinks. Ask them to add a lemon for extra taste.

Skip deserts.  If you must have a desert, share.

If the portions are large, share.  Buy one less meal and ask for an extra plate.

Use coupons or purchase a discount coupon book.

It’s probably not in your budget very often – if at all.

Use a cash envelope for eating out.  When the cash in the envelope is gone – no more eating out for the month.

“If we’re not willing to settle for junk living,

 we certainly shouldn’t settle for junk food.”

                                                                                                     Sally Edwards

“Tell me what you eat, I’ll tell you who you are.”

                                                                                           Anthelme Brillat-Savarin




Becoming a Christian

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Anticipate a Positive Outcome

Focus on a positive outcome.

Expect it.

Anticipate it.

Plan for it.

It will happen.

You will make it happen.

Yes, definitely.

Positive is always better than negative.

Good comes from thinking positive.

Be Positive – for both you and your children.

If you think you can, you can.

If you think you can’t, you can’t.

“You’ve done it before and you can do it now.  See the positive possibilities.

Redirect the substantial energy of your frustration and turn it into positive,

effective, unstoppable determination.”  Ralph Marston Positive-Attitude


Flaws – Yours to Improve

Flaws, we all have them.

You are not perfect, you also have flaws.

All parents have flaws. Yes, even single parents!

We all have strengths and we all have weaknesses.

Which of your flaws needs the most attention to correct?

LOVE is the only thing that can overcome your flaws.

Your children are drawn to your love.

Your children may have trouble over looking your flaws, but they won’t over look your love.

Your love to your children is the answer to most of what goes on in your lives.

Love is what makes it all work.

Love will cover for you!

“If you can learn to love yourself and all the flaws, you can love other people so much better. And that makes you so happy.” Kristin Chenoweth

“My mom raised me so wonderfully.  She gave me self esteem and made me appreciate my flaws, as well as my strengths.”     Kirsten Dunst?????????????


Making Disciples – Follow Me

The Need to Share Our Life

50% of all first marriages end in divorce

60% of all second marriages end in divorce

70% of all third marriages end in divorce

80% of all co-habitations end in separation

Seek your mate carefully. Yoke yourself with a Christian mate. Choose wisely.

The need that offers the greatest potential for joy is also the need that offers the greatest potential for pain, the need to share our life with someone. (Ron Deal)

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To Single Parent Dads & Step-Family Dads

One of the biggest needs in our generation is for men to step into the lives of boys to train them, equip them, and cheer them on to grow up as they begin the process of “manning up.” Dennis Rainey

This includes you single parent dads and you step-family dads!!!

I as once a single dad and now as a step-family dad understand what you are going through. It takes time and energy. You can find both. Step up today and be the dad you need to be. The rewards will blow your mind…

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