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Archive for the month “September, 2013”

Recommended Books for Parenting

Parenting by The Book by John Rosemond

The Five Love Languages of Children by Dr. Gary Chapman

Kids and the Single Mom by Jennifer Barnes Maggio

1-2-3 Magic for Christian Parents by Thomas W. Phelan PH.D. & Chris Webb M.S.,M.A.

Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters by Meg Meeker

The One Minute Father by Spencer Johnson, M.D.

The One Minute Mother by Spencer Johnson, M.D.

                            Try to read at least 1 book every three months –

                             that’s only 3 pages a day for 10 minutes a day !

 

Books can be dangerous.  The best ones should be labeled “This could change your life.”  Helen Exley

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An Intimate Message from God to You

The words you are about to read are true.
They will change your life if you let them.
For they come from the heart of God.
He loves you.
He is the Father you have been looking for all your life.
He longs for you to come to Him.

This is His love letter to you.

My Child,
You may not know me, but I know everything about you. Psalm 139:1
I know when you sit down and when you rise up. Psalm 139:2
I am familiar with all your ways. Psalm 139:3
Even the very hairs on your head are numbered. Matthew 10:29-31
For you were made in my image. Genesis 1:27
In me you live and move and have your being. Acts 17:28
For you are my offspring. Acts 17:28
I knew you even before you were conceived. Jeremiah 1:4-5
I chose you when I planned creation. Ephesians 1:11-12
You were not a mistake, for all your days are written in my book. Psalm 139:15-16
I determined the exact time of your birth and where you would live. Acts 17:26
You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Psalm 139:14
I knit you together in your mother’s womb. Psalm 139:13
And brought you forth on the day you were born. Psalm 71:6
I have been misrepresented by those who don’t know me. John 8:41-44
I am not distant and angry, but am the complete expression of love. 1 John 4:16
And it is my desire to lavish my love on you. 1 John 3:1
Simply because you are my child and I am your Father. 1 John 3:1
I offer you more than your earthly father ever could. Matthew 7:11
For I am the perfect Father. Matthew 5:48
Every good gift that you receive comes from my hand. James 1:17
For I am your provider and I meet all your needs. Matthew 6:31-33
My plan for your future has always been filled with hope. Jeremiah 29:11
Because I love you with an everlasting love. Jeremiah 31:3
My thoughts toward you are countless as the sand on the seashore. Psalms 139:17-18
And I rejoice over you with singing. Zephaniah 3:17
I will never stop doing good to you. Jeremiah 32:40
For you are my treasured possession. Exodus 19:5
I desire to establish you with all my heart and all my soul. Jeremiah 32:41
And I want to show you great and marvelous things. Jeremiah 33:3
If you seek me with all your heart, you will find me. Deuteronomy 4:29
Delight in me and I will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4
For it is I who gave you those desires. Philippians 2:13
I am able to do more for you than you could possibly imagine. Ephesians 3:20
For I am your greatest encourager. 2 Thessalonians 2:16-17
I am also the Father who comforts you in all your troubles. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4
When you are brokenhearted, I am close to you. Psalm 34:18
As a shepherd carries a lamb, I have carried you close to my heart. Isaiah 40:11
One day I will wipe away every tear from your eyes. Revelation 21:3-4
And I’ll take away all the pain you have suffered on this earth. Revelation 21:3-4
I am your Father, and I love you even as I love my son, Jesus. John 17:23
For in Jesus, my love for you is revealed. John 17:26
He is the exact representation of my being. Hebrews 1:3
He came to demonstrate that I am for you, not against you. Romans 8:31
And to tell you that I am not counting your sins. 2 Corinthians 5:18-19
Jesus died so that you and I could be reconciled. 2 Corinthians 5:18-19
His death was the ultimate expression of my love for you. 1 John 4:10
I gave up everything I loved that I might gain your love. Romans 8:31-32
If you receive the gift of my son, Jesus, you receive me. 1 John 2:23
And nothing will ever separate you from my love again. Romans 8:38-39
Come home and I’ll throw the biggest party heaven has ever seen. Luke 15:7
I have always been Father and will always be Father. Ephesians 3:14-15
My question is: will you be my child? John 1:12-13
I am waiting for you. Luke 15:11-32

Love, Your Dad
Almighty God

Finding Our Way Home.

We were born cut-off from God because of our sin. (Isaiah 59:2) But God the Father made a way for us to come home through His Son. Jesus bore upon Himself the weight of our sin, nailing it to the cross so that we could be born into His family. (Romans 5:10)

Jesus is The Way to the Father.

His resurrection from the dead signaled the victory for us! In John 14:6, Jesus says, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through me.”

Would You Like to Receive This Gift?

All you need to do is to tell God that you trust in His Son. The words below might help you express your thoughts to God. (John 3:16, Romans 6:23)

Talk with God…

Father, I’m coming home. Please make me Your child. I turn from my sin and accept Your forgiveness made possible through Jesus Christ’s death and resurrection. I place my faith and trust in Jesus alone to save me. Amen.

Adapted from the book, Father’s Love Letter, by Barry Adams. Published by Christian Publications, Inc., Camp Hill, PA. Call toll-free 800-233-4443 or visit our website: http://www.christianpublications.com.

Father’s Love Letter used by permission Father Heart Communications Copyright 1999-2005
www.FathersLoveLetter.com

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Recommended Books for Step-Families / Blending Families

The Smart Step-Family by Ron L. Deal

Loving Your Stepfamily by Dr. Donald R. Partridge

Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott

Making Your Second Marriage A First-Class Success by Doug and Naomi Moseley

Living In a Step-Family Without Getting Stepped On by Dr. Kevin Leman

When Your Parent Remarries Late in Life by Terri P. Smith with James M. Harper, PH.D.

The Smart Stepmom by Ron L. Deal & Laura Petherbridge

The Smart Stepdad by Ron L. Deal

                             Try to read at least 1 book every three months –

                             that’s only 3 pages a day for 10 minutes a day !

Books can be dangerous.  The best ones should be labeled “This could change your life.”  Helen Exley

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Recommended Books for Single Parents

Single Parenting for Dummmies by Marion Peterson and Diane Warner

Dating and the Single Parent by Ron L. Deal

The Five Love Languages—Singles Edition by Dr. Gary Chapman

Kickin’ Butt as a Single Parent by Bill McLeod

Overwhelmed—The Life of a Single Mom by Jennifer Barnes Maggio

My Single Mom Life by Angela Thomas

The Single Parent Resource by Brook Noel with Art Klein

Chicken Soup for the Single Parent’s Soul by Jack Canfield & Mark Victor Hansen

Part Time Dad Full Time Heart by Keith M. Jowers

Single Parenting That Works by Dr. Kevin Leman

When “I Do” Becomes “I Don’t”: Practical Steps for Healing During Separation & Divorce by Laura Petherbridge

Formerly a Wife by Welby O’Brien

7 Pitfalls of Single Parenting by Carolyn B. Ellis

Surviving Single Parenting by Dawn Isenhart

Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adopting Parents Knew by Sherrie Eldridge

 

                            Try to read at least 1 book every three months –

                             that’s only 3 pages a day for 10 minutes a day !

 

Books can be dangerous.  The best ones should be labeled “This could change your life.”  Helen Exley

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Recommended Books for Difficult Times

The Bible – The Word of God

How to Survive the Loss of a Love by Melba Colgrove, Harold H. Bloomfield & Peter McWilliams

When Bad Things Happen to Good People by Harold S. Kushner

Shattered Dreams by Larry Crabb

90 Minutes in Heaven by Don Piper

Who Moved My Cheese by Spencer Johnson, M.D.

The Best Question Ever by Andy Stanley

The Principle of the Path by Andy Stanley

Rebuilding—When Your Relationship Ends by Dr. Bruce Fisher & Dr. Robert Alberti

The Grace of God by Andy Stanley

Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey

What To Do On the Worst Day of Your Life by Brian Zahnd

Hope For The Separated—Wounded Marriages Can Be Healed by Gary Chapman

Melissa—A Father’s Lessons from a Daughter’s Suicide by Frank Page with Lawrence Kimbrough

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The Funeral – For Widowed with Children

A funeral gives closure.

You need closure.  Your children need closure.

Your children should attend unless they are under the age of four.

Keep your children in the loop of what is happening.  They are affected by your decisions.

Let your children participate in the planning of the funeral:

  • Selecting the Bible readings
  • Selecting the music, songs or hymns
  • Selecting the pallbearers
  • Selecting the headstone
  • Writing the obituary
  • Where to bury
  • Burial or cremation
  • Flowers

Let children old enough be pallbearers.

This is a time to communicate, communicate, communicate with your children.

Explain to your children your feelings.

Help them to understand their feelings at this time.

Be truthful with your children.

At this moment your children feel lost, confused and many conflicting emotions.  They need your loving assurance that everything is going to BE ALRIGHT.  They need your love and attention NOW, more than ever in their lives.

“The bitterest tear shed over graves are the words left unsaid and the deeds left undone.”                                         Harriet Beecher Stowe

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Death of a Spouse

It’s number one on the list of worst tragedies a person can experience.

It will take time to overcome.

It changes one’s life forever.  Your lives will be forever altered.

You MUST talk with your children about what has happened.

Professional counseling may be needed to help you and/or your children work through this tragedy.

After the death, keep the deceased spouse’s or parents’ memory alive.

It won’t be easy or pain free, but you and your children will work through this and put your lives back together.

You need to experience this transition gradually.

Time will help solve some of your grief

You will survive this event as so many others before you have.

You will thrive again in your life.

“If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on is to never stop loving them. Buildings burn, people die, but real love is forever.”                                                                                                                                             Unknown

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A Lot of POOP – Greener on the Other Side

Many of us look on the other side of the fence and see that it is greener than on our side of the fence. We envy those that live on the other side of the fence. We wish our side to be as green as their side.

Have you ever wondered why the other side is greener?  What it took to get their side so green?

Well the answer is “POOP”! Yes, poop! Lots of poop! There has been a whole lot of poop spread around on the other side of the fence. A whole lot of hard work went into making the grass so green. It took a whole lot of time. It took a whole lot of water and fertilizer.

You see, greener grass doesn’t come easy. Anything worth having doesn’t come free.

It’s that way with our relationships and marriages. Those relationships and marriages on the other side of the fence are like the greener grass. Those relationships and marriages were once like our side. Those marriages have a lot of POOP in their lives. To make their lives work they have to put in a lot of hard work, a lot of time, a lot of water, a whole lot of fertilizer (poop). Their relationships and marriages don’t come free. Yours won’t either…

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Marriage 101 – Fact 7

Couples whose marriages continued to improve verses those who did not only spent an extra 5 hours a week on their marriage.

Couples can benefit by counseling by learning healthy communication skills, conflict resolution techniques and by making sure both have realistic expectations. Your marriage does not have to become a statistic. Counselors and therapists are there for you and your spouse or for you and your prospective spouse.

Source: The Seven Principles for making Marriage Work by John Gottman

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Marriage 101 – Fact 6

The determining factor in whether wives feel satisfied with sex, romance and passion in marriage is, by 70%, the quality of the couple’s friendship.

For men, the determining factor in whether husbands feel satisfied with sex, romance and passion is, by 70%, the quality of the couple’s friendship.

Couples can benefit by counseling by learning healthy communication skills, conflict resolution techniques and by making sure both have realistic expectations. Your marriage does not have to become a statistic. Counselors and therapists are there for you and your spouse or for you and your prospective spouse.

Source: The Seven Principles for making Marriage Work by John Gottman

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