The Funeral – For Widowed with Children
A funeral gives closure.
You need closure. Your children need closure.
Your children should attend unless they are under the age of four.
Keep your children in the loop of what is happening. They are affected by your decisions.
Let your children participate in the planning of the funeral:
- Selecting the Bible readings
- Selecting the music, songs or hymns
- Selecting the pallbearers
- Selecting the headstone
- Writing the obituary
- Where to bury
- Burial or cremation
Let children old enough be pallbearers.
This is a time to communicate, communicate, communicate with your children.
Explain to your children your feelings.
Help them to understand their feelings at this time.
Be truthful with your children.
At this moment your children feel lost, confused and many conflicting emotions. They need your loving assurance that everything is going to BE ALRIGHT. They need your love and attention NOW, more than ever in their lives.
“The bitterest tear shed over graves are the words left unsaid and the deeds left undone.” Harriet Beecher Stowe