Mothers – Raising Sons
You must understand that boys and girls express themselves differently.
Gender can make a difference in your relationship with your children.
Raising a son is different than raising a daughter.
Children tend to get along better with the same sex parent.
Boys tend to adjust worse than girls to becoming a child of a single parent.
Girls adjust better because they mature faster than boys.
Communicating with your son and daughter will be quite different.
Your son will think in terms of logic and solving problems because a male has a more active left brain.
A son tends to take divorce harder.
Most moms feel it is much harder raising a teenage son than a daughter.
Your older son may feel like he must substitute for the father/husband. Don’t let him. Remember, he is your son, not your husband.
“For a single mother the project of raising a boy is the most fulfilling project she can hope for. She can watch him, as a child, play the games she was not allowed to play; she can invest in him her ideas, aspirations, ambitions and values – or whatever she has left of them; she can watch her son, who came from her flesh and whose life was sustained by her work and devotion, embody her in the world. So while the project of raising a boy is fraught with ambivalence and leads inevitably to bitterness, it is the only project that allows a woman to be -to be through her son, to live through her son.” Andrea Dworkin