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Archive for the month “November, 2013”

Recommended Book

Insuring Marriage – 25 Proven Ways to Prevent Divorce

by Michael J. McManus

You can be a marriage-saver for your own marriage or for the marriage of someone else!

There are answers in this book for:

Seriously dating couples

Engaged couples

Married couples

Someone in a troubled marriage

Someone divorced & considering remarriage

Couples with stale or boring marriages

Unmarried couples living together

Parents of teenagers

Mentor couples

Pastors and church staff

Church lay leaders



Women – Raised in Single Parent Homes

My Daughter – Ramsey Cruise Long

Marilyn Monroe – Actress

Demi Moore – Actress

Hallie Berry – Actress

Mariah Carey – Musician

Jodie Foster – Actress

Julia Roberts – Actress

Barbara Streisand – Musician

Shania Twain – Musician

Jamie Lee Curtis – Actress


Let me know of any other women you know of that were raised in a single parent home.

Let me know if you were raised in a single parent home and by which parent.

Children of single parents


Men – Raised in Single Parent Homes

My Sons – Jamie & Douglas Cruise

Dr. Charles Stanley – Pastor AtlantaGeorgia

Jim Daily – Focus on the Family

Dr. Fred Luter – Pastor / President Southern Baptist Convention

Voddie Bacham – Pastor / Family – Men’s Conference Speaker

Dr. Lavon Gray – LibertyUniversity / Music Director

George Washington – 1st President

Thomas Jefferson – President

Bill Clinton – President

Lance Armstrong – Cyclist

Jimmy Connors – Tennis

Pierce Brosnan – Actor

Eric Clapton – Musician

Stephen Colbert – TV Host

John Lennon – Musician

Eddie Murphy – Actor/Comedian

Jack Nicholson – Actor

Shaquille O’Neal – Basketball Star

Al Pachino – Actor

Alex Rodriguez – Baseball Star

Bill Cosby – Comedian / Actor

Michael Phelps – Olympic Gold Medalist

Alexander Haig, Jr. – Secretary of State

Charles Darwin – Biologist

Let me know of any other men you know of that were raised in a single parent home.

Let me know if you were raised in a single parent home and by which parent.

Children of single parents


Today is National Adoption Day

November is National Adoption Month. 
November 17th is National Adoption Day.

Adoption is all about celebrating a Family for Every Child.
Every child needs a family.
Every child should have a family.
A family to call their own.
A family that loves them.
A family for them to love.
A family to be a valuable part of.
Yes, adoption is all about celebrating a family for every child!
NAD Letterhead 1

Recommended Book for Parenting

Bringing Out THE WINNER in Your Child

by John Croyle with Ken Abraham

  • Children listen with their eyes, not their ears
  • Realistic boundaries produce the freedom children need
  • Quality time never comes, you have to make it



Duck Dynasty – They Waited for Sex Til Their Wedding Night


School – You & Your Children

Grades are important.  They are indicators of how your child is learning and adjusting to their life changes as they grow up.

When children are having emotional issues, they usually show up in their lower grades at school.

Remember!  It’s their – homework – projects – grades – NOT YOURS.

Your children need a scheduled homework time set aside.

Children of single parents, as a national average, tend to under achieve in school.

You must impress upon your children, the importance success in school will have in their success in life after school. Success in school for your children doesn’t happen by itself.

Success in school is a family activity.

Your children need your assistance.

Your child should do all their homework by themselves.  You should only help when they absolutely can’t figure it out.

School projects, if left to the child to do on their own, will teach them more about who they are and what they can do than just about anything they can do.

Parent – Teacher Conferences are important – don’t miss them.

School work and learning should be enjoyable and self promoting.  Put your children in a position to enjoy as they learn.

School is important in the success of your children!

 “The difference between school and life?

In school, you’re taught a lesson and then given a test.

In life, you’re given a test that teaches you a lesson.”

Tom Bodett





Playing With Your Children

Strive to really be “in the moment” when playing with your children.  Leave other concerns, responsibilities, and agendas somewhere else.

Plan some time to just play with your children – even if it’s just for a few minutes.

Ask your children what they want to do with you, and do it.  Let them take the lead.

No matter what your children’s age, come up with an activity you can do together that will help them develop physically, emotionally, socially, morally and intellectually.

Playing means having fun, laughing and smiling.

Remember how you liked to be played with when you were a child.

It’s the best way to bond with your children.

Don’t underestimate the power of play in your relationship with your children.

Build a deeper relationship with your children and enjoy them.

Enjoy your children.  They are God’s gift to you.

Don’t always play with all your children together, at the same.  They each need quality individual time play time with you.

When possible – Give each child some quality individual play time.



“A three-year-old child is a being who gets almost as much fun

out of a fifty-six dollar set of swings

as it does out of finding a small green worm.”

                                                                                    Bill Vaughn


“Kids go where there is excitement.

 They stay where there is love.”

                                                                                    Zig Ziglar

Dad Daughter sled






Leisure Time – On the Cheap

The key is to spend as much leisure time with your children as possible.

Play in your yard or neighborhood.

Go to the park or beach.

Borrow a movie from the library or a friend, or just rent one.

Take your children to a discounted afternoon matinee movie. (Smuggle in your own popcorn and candy bars and drink water)

Visit a local museum.

Put puzzles together or play box games indoors together.

Attend story times for children at your local library.

Cheap things to do:

  • Go fishing
  • Ride a bike
  • Go walking
  • Climb a tree
  • Wash the car
  • Walk the dog
  • Go to the zoo
  • Play croquet
  • Throw a Frisbee
  • Play badminton
  • Play basketball
  • Throw the football

Leisure time doesn’t have to cost a lot, or even any thing…

“The master in the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his information and his religion. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence at whatever he does, leaving others to decide whatever he is working or playing. To him he’s always doing both.” James A. Michener

Foster Carers Playing With Children






Listening – More Important Than Speaking

Your children need you to listen to them.

We’re talking about really listening.

Eye to eye, ear to ear!

No distractions.

Remember – action speaks louder than words.

Don’t always be in a hurry to tell your children something.  It is wise to listen to them before commenting on something they said.

Listen to your children – it’s the only way to know:

  • What they are thinking
  • What they know
  • How they are feeling
  • What they think of you
  • Get their point of view
  • How they might be hurting
  • What makes them tick
  • What they want you to do
  • What your child is really saying

If you won’t listen to your children, why should they listen to you?

Apologize to your children for not being as good a listener as you should be, and tell that that you are working on becoming a better listener.

Really listening means:  No distractions, direct eye contact, your full attention and one on one attention

Look your child in the eyes, show genuine concern and never pass off the problem as insignificant.

Listening shows your child that you love them and care about them.

How can you help your child if you don’t know what’s on their mind?


“The first duty of love is to listen.”

                                           Paul Tillich

“A good listener is not only popular everywhere,

 but after a while he gets to know something.”

                                                                        Wilson Mizner

Listening children



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