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Archive for the month “May, 2015”

Bad Day – Good Life

Become a Super Single Parent

So you’re having a bad day – it will be over soon.

Everybody has bad days – even single parents.

Your children may be having a bad day, too.

A good life is made up of both good days and bad days – usually more good than bad.

Having a bad day – it too shall pass!

“Try again.  Fail again.  Fail better.”     Samuel Beckett

“I think in terms of the day’s resolutions, not the years’.”   Henry Moore

“I had the blues because I had no shoes until upon the street, I met a man who had no feet.”  Denis Waitely

“This too, shall pass.”    William Shakespeare


AUTHORITY – Running Your Home – Who’s In Charge?

As a Single Parent:

You and you alone are in charge of running your home.  Not your children, not your ex spouse, not anyone else.  Only You!  Period! It’s your life, control your own destiny. You’re the adult – they’re the children. Your children should not run their own lives; you know what’s best for them. You rule your house, it does not rule you. You will feel better and less stressed when things are under YOUR CONTROL. Life will be better when you are the one at the steering wheel, in control.

“Parents who are afraid to put their foot down usually have children who step on their toes.”  Chinese Proverb

“The wisest have the most authority.”  Plato

Patience as a Single Parent

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Become a Super Single Parent


Work at being a single parent on your own timetable.

Don’t expect everything to come together immediately – it will take time.

You will adjust to your changed life eventually.

Listen to your inner self.  You know what is right for you better than anyone else.

Don’t rush.

Wait, trust, and expect good things to happen in your new life.

Let time work for you.

“Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.” John Quincy Adams

“Follow your heart, but be quiet for a while firse. Ask questions, then feel the answer. Learn to trust your heart.” Unknown

As a Super Single Parent:

As a Super Single Parent:

Take stock of what’s RIGHT with your life – Not what went wrong.

Not everything in your life is going wrong.  Write down what is right in your life.

With Your Children _______________________________________

With Your Health _________________________________________

With Your Friends ________________________________________

With Your Emotional State _________________________________

With Your Finances _______________________________________

With Your Spiritual Life ___________________________________

Now, don’t you feel somewhat better! Always look to the positive…

Our Children – A Priority?

We may SAY our children are a priority, but if we regularly choose something else above them, that’s telling.  Our actions, not words, always tell where our true priorities are!

Involved Dads

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Involved Dads are incredibly important for children to grow up to be well-adjusted adults Kids with involved Dads do far better when compared to kids whose Dads are not involved Kids need their Dads

Daughters of single parents without a Father involved are:

53% more likely to marry as teenagers

711% more likely to have children as teenagers

164% more likely to have a pre-marital birth

92% more likely to get divorced themselves

Yes, INVOLVED dads are incredibly important in the lives of their daughters

Conference a Success


The “Become a SUPER Single Parent” Conference at Olive Baptist Church in Pensacola, FL was an unbelievable Friday night and Saturday morning for Single Mothers, Single Fathers, their Children and Leadership in the Pensacola area. God showed up in a mighty way and over 50 single parents learned what it takes to be a super single parent.

Olive Baptist went over the top to love on these single parents They also provided an amazing meal for Friday night and Saturday morning Brunch. An awesome thanks to Dr. Ted Traylor, Robert & Judy Lloyd, Cynthia and their church for such a time as this.

If you would like to have James and his wife, Cindy, speak at your church or as an outreach to your community, please contact James at http://www.jamescruise.com Thank you Olive Baptist for your heart and vision for your community and your love for Single Parents.

Where do your children fit in now?


Your children loved you and their other parent before whatever has happened. Whether it be divorce, death or separation. Your children still love you both.  If the other parent died your children may now love them more than they did when they were alive.  Your children will constantly ask questions to find out where they fit in their new situation.  They want to be assured that they are still loved by you and your former spouse.  They want to be reminded that you still love them.  Tell them how proud you are to be their parent and how much you love them.  Tell and show them often…

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