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Archive for the month “June, 2015”

Friends Are Like Bras…

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“Friends are like bras: close to your heart and there for support.”

Don’t try to go it alone in this world. We weren’t made to go it alone.

Seek the Support of others…

Friends, single or married

Neighbors

Relatives

Your children

Co-workers

Your church

Your best friend

A mentor

A qualified counselor

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T-I-M-E

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As a Single Parent your children will want and need more of your time, when you least have it. You must find time for them. Quality time. Individual time. Group time. Fun time. Your love to them is spelled T-I-M-E.

Never Bad Mouth

Parents swear, and children suffer

Parents swear, and children suffer

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As a single parent never bad mouth your former spouse in front of the children.  That’s their parent you’re bad mouthing. Always take the high road in your relationship with your ex-spouse or ex-partner.

Big Mistakes by Single Parents

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How many of these are you unintentionally making.  You can change and stop making them.  Get to it…

  1. Denying yourself a social life.
  2. Failing to establish boundaries.
  3. Labeling your children.
  4. Setting expectations too high.
  5. Refusing to seek professional therapy or help.
  6. Not having a written schedule.
  7. Allowing your children to take advantage of you.
  8. Not getting along with your Ex-spouse to the detriment of your children

All You Involved Dads & Father Figures

Happy Father’s Day to all of the men (fathers / single parent dads / stepdads / grandfathers / uncles / pastors / mentors) who have invested in the lives of your children and loved ones. You are appreciated!

Father’s Day to Me

I am blessed

A time to remember. Seems like just yesterday.  Doesn’t seem that long ago. The anticipation of a new wee little one on the way. Three little miracles from God have come my way to take care of for my heavenly Father. He has shared and entrusted them to me for a lifetime. Those first diapers to change, that first lonely tooth, that first skinned knee, that first big time date to go on. I remember well each’s first driver’s license, first fender bender, and leaving home for the larger world of a university. Two of the three have found mates for life through their marriages. Three beautiful grandchildren gift’s from God as my reward for protecting and guiding and parenting His first gifts of children to me. Ups and downs we have had.  Jugglers drop things, and so have I. So proud of my children and grandchildren I am. So much love I have for them. Life is about family, it really is. Today, Father’s Day, truly is a blessed day for me.

On the Road to Baton Rouge

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Headed to The National Single Moms Conference in Baton Rouge today. Going to be a great event for single moms from over 40 states. Pray for single moms this weekend. Visit us at our Booth if you are in attendance at the conference.

What It Means to be a Father…

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Dad, daddy, pop, papa, pa, and father. Many names, but the same job description. 

The term “fathering,” means to treat with protective care. It means being involved, behaving responsibly, being emotionally engaged, physically available, providing financial support, and having influence in child-rearing decisions.

THE STATE OF FATHERHOOD

Before the industrial revolution, dads worked side by side with their children and both taught, and lived out, the critical character traits needed for a successful life. Traits such as: honesty, patience, integrity, hard work, and perseverance. Traits that helped build a great nation.

When the industrial revolution showed up, fathers left their farms and headed to the factories. Long workdays and swing shifts set the stage for the absentee father.

Over time, fathers often became regarded as merely breadwinners who fulfilled their paternal duty by providing. Dads made the money and moms did everything else.

That kind of thinking has had a negative effect on the home!

Today in America, 43% of all children live without their father. Ninety percent of all homeless and runaway children, 71% of all pregnant teenagers, 71% of high school dropouts, 75% of adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers, come from fatherless homes.

Fatherless children are twice as likely to drop out of high school, twice as likely to end up in jail, and four times more likely to need help for behavioral problems.

Some people ask, “Are fathers necessary?” The answer is a resounding yes!

I don’t list these statistics to frighten you. I want to show fathers just how important it is that you take an active role in your child’s life. This will help not only your child, but also improve your relationship with your spouse.

In education alone, statistics show that children with fathers are 40% less likely to repeat a grade in school, 70% less likely to drop out of school, are more likely to enjoy school and engage in extracurricular activities, and are more likely to make A’s in school.
WHAT GOD’S WORD SAYS

“Fathers,” we’re a God idea. The creator of the universe describes himself as a Father. He also describes himself as Love. This describes action not just feeling. Love is what you do for somebody, not what you feel about them.

Scripture gives us some insight as to what God expected:

  • Proverbs 22:6 (NKJV) Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.
  • Deuteronomy 6:6-7 (NKJV) “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.
  • Luke 11:11-13 (NLT) “You fathers—if your children ask[a] for a fish, do you give them a snake instead? 12 Or if they ask for an egg, do you give them a scorpion? Of course not! 13 So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask Him.”
  • Ephesians 6:4 (NLT) Fathers, [a] do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.
  • Colossians 3:21 (NLT) Fathers, do not aggravate your children, or they will become discouraged.
  • Hebrews 12:9 (NLT) Since we respected our earthly fathers who disciplined us, shouldn’t we submit even more to the discipline of the Father of our spirits, and live forever?

SUMMARIZING: A FATHER’S RESPONSIBILITY

  • Teach your children.
  • Train them.
  • Give them good gifts.
  • Do not provoke them to anger by the way we treat them.
  • Do not aggravate them.

If you didn’t have a father around or if you’re a single mother, God promises to be a father to the fatherless (Psalm 68:5). Don’t let statistics make you think a situation is hopeless. No situation is hopeless with God. He has a great plan for you and your family!

If you are a father, take what God’s Word says and make that your aim for fatherhood. God set the standard and all we need to do is follow that example.

Joe McGee
Joe McGee Ministries

This article is from MoJoe Newsletter 6/18/2015

Cohabitating Couples

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Cohabitating couples are 30-50% less likely to have successful marriages, statistics show. Young couples cohabitate for different reasons. Women see it as preparation for marriage, but men cohabit to avoid marriage.  This difference is the cause of many divorces in young couples. Mike McManus Sept. 27, 2012 The Baptist Record

What your kids are thinking?

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How would you answer these questions to your children?

Do you still love me?

Will you leave me too?

What did I do?

How will we make it?

Will they be coming back?

Why did this happen?

How can I make it right again?

What will my friends think?

Where do I fit in now?

Who is my dad?  Who is my mom?

Are you going to die & leave me also?

Are we a family anymore?

Where do I fit in this divorce?

I don’t like these changes?

Why do I feel this way?  I don’t like it.

Did I cause this to happen?

Are you looking for a new partner?

What do I tell my friends?

Can I still visit my grandparents?

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