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Archive for the month “July, 2015”

Become a Super Single Parent


Will Be Interviewed on American Family Radio


I will be interviewed live on American Family Radio (AFR) TODAY’S ISSUES hosted by Tim Wildmon on Tuesday July 28 at 11:10 AM CDT talking about single parents and my ministry. Hope you can tune in! If not, you can visit the AFR site afterwards and listen to it at your convenience. http://www.afr.net/afr-talk/todays-issues/

Men Who Were Raised in Single Parent Homes

My Sons – Jamie & Douglas Cruise

Dr. Charles Stanley – Pastor Atlanta Georgia

Jim Daily – Focus on the Family

Dr. Fred Luter – Pastor / President Southern Baptist Convention

Voddie Bacham – Pastor / Family – Men’s Conference Speaker

Dr. Lavon Gray – Liberty University / Music Director

George Washington – 1st President

Thomas Jefferson – President

Bill Clinton – President

Lance Armstrong – Cyclist

Jimmy Connors – Tennis

Pierce Brosnan – Actor

Eric Clapton – Musician

Stephen Colbert – TV Host

John Lennon – Musician

Eddie Murphy – Actor/Comedian

Jack Nicholson – Actor

Shaquille O’Neal – Basketball Star

Al Pachino – Actor

Alex Rodriguez – Baseball Star

Bill Cosby – Comedian / Actor

Michael Phelps – Olympic Gold Medalist

Alexander Haig, Jr. – Secretary of State

Charles Darwin – Biologist

Let me know of any other men you know of that were raised in a single parent home.

Let me know if you were raised in a single parent home and by which parent.

Listening – More Important Than Speaking

Listen and Learn

Become a Super Single Parent

Your children need you to listen to them.

We’re talking about REALLY listening.

Eye to eye, ear to ear!

No distractions.

Remember – action speaks louder than words.

Don’t always be in a hurry to tell your children something.  It is wise to listen to them before commenting on something they said.

Listen to your children – it’s the only way to know:

  • What they are thinking
  • What they know
  • How they are feeling
  • What they think of you
  • Get their point of view
  • How they might be hurting
  • What makes them tick
  • What they want you to do
  • What your child is really saying

If you won’t listen to your children, why should they listen to you?

Apologize to your children for not being as good a listener as you should be, and tell that that you are working on becoming a better listener.

Really listening means:  No distractions, direct eye contact, your full attention and one on one attention

Look your child in the eyes, show genuine concern and never pass off the problem as insignificant.

Listening shows your child that you love them and care about them.

How can you help your child if you don’t know what’s on their mind?

“The first duty of love is to listen.”  Paul Tillich

“A good listener is not only popular everywhere,  but after a while he gets to know something.”  Wilson Mizner

Three Questions That Can Transform Your Single Parent Family


  1. Do you believe that there is a God?
  2. Are you willing to apply the principles of God’s Word to your life?
  3. Will you pray for the Spirit of God to strengthen you and your children?

Family is and always has been important to God. You and your children are a family. You and your children are a family that is important to God. Yes, you and your family! In Luke 12:7 it says “Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered.” Yes God really does know you and your children. He knows what has happened to you and your family, what is happening and what will happen. He cares for you and each of your children. He just want you to come to Him and apply His principles in your lives. Go to Him right now and ask Him to strengthen you and your children.

Your Children Are Watching You

Become a Super Single Parent

Surviving Tough Times

Your children may not verbally thank you for your efforts now, but they are watching and they are seeing how you respond to tough times.  Your actions and emotions during stressful times will be remembered. Your payoff will come years from now, when your children are older and believe it or not – wiser. They will get it. They will appreciate what you did and how you sacrificed for them.

Today – Now

Become a Super Single Parent

Surviving Tough Times

Today is the most important day in your life because it is the only day you are assured of.

Tomorrow may not come.

Live in the NOW.  Enjoy each “now” moment.

Yesterday is in the past.  Never to be again!

Make today count for something worthwhile.

Do something for someone today.  Someone who can’t return your kindness…

Live is an “action” verb.

Help make someone a better day.

Love someone today.

Someone is: You, your children, others.

Today is tomorrow’s yesterday.

“Don’t let yesterday use up too much of today.” Will Rogers

Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed.”   Dr. Wayne Dyer

Discipline Isn’t Spelled P-U-N-I-S-H-M-E-N-T

Discipline Isn’t Spelled P-U-N-I-S-H-M-E-N-T

Love is really Discipline and Discipline is really Love.

Definition: Discipline means to teach how to.

Give your children LIMITS.  Then enforce them.

When in trouble our children turn to:

#1 music, #2 friends, #3 television, #33 mothers, #48 fathers

We chose to have children. God chose what children we have.

Parents are either a POSITIVE or NEGATIVE influence on their children.

Be proactive, not reactive.

Focus on your children’s needs instead of treating their behavior.

“If you do not punish your children, you don’t love them, but if you love your children, you will correct them.”  Proverbs 13:24 NCV

Everything You Need To Know About Parenting in 12 Jim Gaffigan Quotes


The Original Dad Bod

Everything You Need To Know About Parenting in 12 Jim Gaffigan Quotes

If you’re like most parents, when your kid’s first full written sentence is “Dad is fat,” you go find a book about how to raise respectful children or properly address body image issues. If you’re Jim Gaffigan, you go write a book about how to be a good parent when you have no idea what you’re doing — and use that sentence as the title. Gaffigan has plenty to say about parenthood, and for good reason; his brood of 5 kids provides endless material including these 12 timeless revelations.

On How Kids Perceive Sleep Compared To Adults
“Bedtime makes you realize how completely incapable you are of being in charge of another human being. My children act like they’ve never been to sleep before. ‘Bed? What’s that? No, I’m not doing that.’ They never want to go to bed. This is another thing that I will never have in common with my children. Every morning when I wake up, my first thought is, ‘When can I come back here?’ It’s the carrot that keeps me motivated. Sometimes going to bed feels like the highlight of my day. Ironically, to my children, bedtime is a punishment that violates their basic rights as human beings. Once the lights are out, you can expect at least an hour of inmates clanging their tin cups on the cell bars.”

On Your Actual Purpose For Toddlers
“I used to wonder why I had hair on my legs, but now I know it’s for my toddler sons and daughters to pull themselves up off the ground with as I scream in pain.”

On The Law Behavioral Averages
“Children have a tendency to behave as poorly as the most poorly behaved kid in the room. The laws of physics dictate that if there is a kid screaming and running in the hallway of a hotel, all the other children will scream and run in the hallway of the hotel.”

On The Flawed Programming Of Toddlers
“Toddler judgment is horrible. They don’t have any. Put a 12-month-old on a bed, and they will immediately try and crawl off headfirst like a lemming on a mindless migration mission. But the toddler mission is never mindless. They have two goals: find poison and find something to destroy.”

On Whether Or Not You’re Qualified To Be A Parent
“Every night before I get my one hour of sleep, I have the same thought: ‘Well, that’s a wrap on another day of acting like I know what I’m doing.’ I wish I were exaggerating, but I’m not. Most of the time, I feel entirely unqualified to be a parent. I call these times being awake.”

On Kids’ Music
“There should be a children’s song, ‘If You’re Happy and You Know It, Keep It To Yourself And Let Your Dad Sleep.”

On What It’s Like For You When You Have A Lot Of Kids …
“You know what it’s like having a fourth kid? Imagine you’re drowning, then someone hands you a baby.”

… And What It’s Like For Everyone Else
“Big families are like waterbed stores; they used to be everywhere, and now they’re just weird.”

On Babies Versus Roommate
“Babies are the worst roommates. They’re unemployed. They don’t pay rent. They keep insane hours. Their hygiene is horrible. If you had a roommate that did any of the things babies do, you’d ask them to move out. ‘Do you remember what happened last night? Today you’re all smiles, but last night you were hitting the bottle really hard. Then you started screaming, and you threw up on me. Then you passed out and wet yourself. I went into the other room to get you some dry clothes, I came back, and you were all over my wife’s breasts! Right in front of me, her husband! Dude, you gotta move out.'”

On That Cat Steven’s Song
“The song goes, ‘Morning has broken,’ and I’m pretty sure my children broke it. Like everything else they break, if they did break it, they’ll never admit it.”

On Sleep Training
“There are two philosophies when it comes to getting young children to sleep. There is ‘sleep training,’ which basically involves putting your kids to bed and listening to them scream all night; or there is ‘attachment parenting,’ which essentially involves lying down with your kids, cuddling them, and then listening to them scream all night.”

On The Secret To Life
“People treat having a kid as somehow retiring from success. Quitting. Have you seen a baby? They’re pretty cute. Loving them is pretty easy. Smiling babies should actually be categorized by the pharmaceutical industry as a powerful antidepressant. Being happy is really the definition of success, isn’t it?”


You are a Star

Become a Super Single Parent

Surviving Tough Times

In the Bible it says that you are made in the image of God and that He even knows the number of hairs on your head. No matter what event or events have happened to you in life you are still special, very special. You are not defined by the events in your life but by who you are. It doesn’t get any better than that!

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