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Reading with my Son – 283 Miles Apart

My oldest son, Jamie sent me the book, “Uncommon Life Daily Challenge”, a one year devotional by Tony Dungy. He bought the book for himself also. We live 283 miles apart. So, each day of this year we will be reading the exact same devotional thought. That’s 365 days we will be reading and thinking and praying about the same things each day. How cool is that!


Split Decisions: Author Fights Divorce Rate Myth

Is it possible, reporters are asking, that everything we’ve been told about marriage and divorce is wrong? Shaunti Feldhahn thinks so. The Harvard-trained researcher spent the last eight years trying to get to the bottom of the data on broken marriages — and the results might shock you. We’ve all heard the statistic that half of all marriages end in divorce. Not so fast, says Feldhahn, who lays out the argument in her new book (The Good News about Marriage) that the actual divorce rate isn’t even close to that number.

Like most sociologists, Shaunti says she’s “stood up on stage and said every one of those wrong statistics.” Now, she’s on a mission to correct those assumptions. If anything, she points out, the divorce rate is dropping. “First-time marriages: probably 20 to 25% have ended in divorce on average,” she explains. “There is no such thing as a 50% divorce rate. It’s never been close. Right now,” she tells Billy Hallowell of The Blaze, “…72% of people are still married to their first spouse — that’s Census Bureau data.”

At the very least, Feldhahn estimates, the divorce rate is 27-50% lower than people think. “Starting in the 1970s — that’s when those projections started — when no fault divorce started, the divorce rate skyrocketed. Suddenly, there was this explosion in divorce… it has fallen according to the crude divorce rate… 32% since 1980.”

What’s more, she says the comparisons between the church and general society are an absolute myth. “The divorce rate dropped by 27% between those who went to church last week.” One of Shaunti’s favorite things is shocking people with the news that 80% of marriages are happy. “The sense of futility itself pulls down marriages. And the problem is we have this culture-wide feeling of futility about marriage. It’s based on all these discouraging beliefs and many of them just aren’t true.” I don’t know about you, but I could use some good news on our culture — and the Good News about Marriage is exactly that!




Follow Me

Follow Me – A Call to Die. A Call to Live. What did Jesus really mean when He said, “Follow Me”.

Is is possible for people to say they believe in Jesus but not be born again? Is it possible for people to claim they have accepted Christ into their hearts yet not actually be Christians?

Not only is it possible, but according to Pastor David Platt, it’s also highly probable.The author of the bestselling book Radical is convinced that many people in our churches today are misled as to what it truly means to be a follower of Christ. Western culture has drained the lifeblood out of Christianity and replaced it with a watered-down version of the gospel that is so palatable it isn’t even real anymore.

A call to die. A call to live. Have you answered that call?

Follow Me by David Platt


Workbook – Become a Super Single Parent

Now available on our website.

Recommended Reading for Grandparents Raising Their Grandchildren

“Raising Your Children’s Children” by Martha Evans Sparks

If you are one of these grandparents, your life is changing in major ways. You may be faced with court proceedings, medical expenses, new demands on your time and energy; and the emotional needs of your grandchildren. There are millions of grandparents in all ethnic and socioeconomic groups who are experiencing what you are… and the numbers are increasing.


A Helpful Quick Read for Surviving the Holidays

“Unwrapping the Gift of Stepfamily Peace: A StepParent’s Guide to Success” by Heather Hetchler & Gayla Grace

Holidays are best celebrated with family and friends. No matter what your family and friends now look like. This book, by Heather Hetchler & Gayla Grace is just what the doctor ordered for you if you are a single parent or living in a step-family these holidays. Give it a read, I did and it gave me a wonderful and insightful perspective as how to work my way through the holidays. Available as a Kindle E-Book for just $2.99 from Amazon.


Recommended Book

Insuring Marriage – 25 Proven Ways to Prevent Divorce

by Michael J. McManus

You can be a marriage-saver for your own marriage or for the marriage of someone else!

There are answers in this book for:

Seriously dating couples

Engaged couples

Married couples

Someone in a troubled marriage

Someone divorced & considering remarriage

Couples with stale or boring marriages

Unmarried couples living together

Parents of teenagers

Mentor couples

Pastors and church staff

Church lay leaders


Recommended Book for Parenting

Bringing Out THE WINNER in Your Child

by John Croyle with Ken Abraham

  • Children listen with their eyes, not their ears
  • Realistic boundaries produce the freedom children need
  • Quality time never comes, you have to make it


Recommended Book:

For those cohabitating or thinking about cohabitation

“Living Together – Myths, Risks & Answers” by Mike & Harriet McManus

Cofounders of Marriage Savers

The average length of cohabitation is 15 months. The rate of divorce for those that choose to cohabitate before marriage is approximately 80%. Cohabitation is not the gateway to a happy and long lasting marriage that many believe it to be.


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For I Hate Divorce

“For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel.
Malachi 2:16

This poem was written by Jen Abbas, then an 18-year-old child of divorce. I’ve arranged it a little differently on this page than it appears in her book, Generation EX, to make it fit. Its message is too important to allow form to quiet its voice. Listen to “The Eruption.”

Divorce is like a trembling earthquake,
The world shakes, rumbling with rage,
And all the anger, guilt, and frustrations
That have been festering for so long below the surface
Suddenly spew upward in an inferno of hate or apathy.
At times the earth calms and you think the turmoil is over,
Settled, stable, but then the cycle begins again,
Repeating, repeating, repeating.
You are weary, you want to rest,
And that is when you realize the shaking has stopped,
But there is an eerie feeling lurking in the air.
You are hesitant to believe anything anymore,
You are so tired after struggling for so long,
And so you rest on the one solid patch of land,
Only to watch it split in two,
Two separate, distinct parts that will never come together again.
Each new patch supports part of you,
And as you watch, they pull away.

This is the type of poem that breaks my heart because it represents so many children who are torn apart by divorce. No matter what you are experiencing in your marriage, and no matter how tough it is, just remember the impact that staying together will have on your children.

Promise each other that this will never be the heart’s cry of your children. Talk about who you should consider sending this poem to right now.

Pray for the children of divorce today, who are struggling to be loved and to belong. Pray for a friend who is moving toward a split.


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