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Cohabitating couples are 30-50% less likely to have successful marriages, statistics show. Young couples cohabitate for different reasons. Women see it as preparation for marriage, but men cohabit to avoid marriage.  This difference is the cause of many divorces in young couples. Mike McManus Sept. 27, 2012 The Baptist Record

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Recommended Book

Insuring Marriage – 25 Proven Ways to Prevent Divorce

by Michael J. McManus

You can be a marriage-saver for your own marriage or for the marriage of someone else!

There are answers in this book for:

Seriously dating couples

Engaged couples

Married couples

Someone in a troubled marriage

Someone divorced & considering remarriage

Couples with stale or boring marriages

Unmarried couples living together

Parents of teenagers

Mentor couples

Pastors and church staff

Church lay leaders

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Recommended Book:

For those cohabitating or thinking about cohabitation

“Living Together – Myths, Risks & Answers” by Mike & Harriet McManus

Cofounders of Marriage Savers

The average length of cohabitation is 15 months. The rate of divorce for those that choose to cohabitate before marriage is approximately 80%. Cohabitation is not the gateway to a happy and long lasting marriage that many believe it to be.

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Risks in Cohabitation

  1. Nearly 50% of all cohabitating couples break up before a marriage ever takes place.
  2. Half of cohabitating relationships end within 15 months- without a wedding.
  3. The rate of divorce for those that choose to cohabitate before marriage is 80%.
  4. There are about 5.4 million couples now cohabitating at any given time in the U.S. In a year’s time, between 7 and 9 million couples have cohabited.
  5. Cohabitating couples suffer much higher rates of depression than the married.
  6. Women are far more likely to be abused by a live-in boyfriend than a husband.
  7. When cohabiting couples marry, they suffer higher rates of infidelity than those who did not live together before taking their vows.
  8. The number of never-married Americans soared from 21 million in 1970 to 52 million in 2005.
  9. The longer one cohabitates, the greater the danger of a future divorce.
  10. Even a month’s cohabitation damages a couple’s relationship.
  11. “Premarital divorce or breakup” of a cohabitating couple is every bit as painful as a real divorce.
  12. Typically, women are far more committed than men.
  13. The proportion of cohabitating unions that end in marriage within 3 years is 33%.
  14. The law protects the rights of divorced spouses; it does not protect separating cohabiters unless the couple has signed a legal agreement (Joint tenants with Rights of Survivorship), which only 10% of cohabiting couples have done.
  15. “Men were less dedicated in their marriages if they had lived with their partners before marriage,” according to Dr. Scott Stanley in his 2005 book, The Power of Commitment.
  16. Cohabitation leads to getting wed for all the wrong reasons.
  17. The number of unmarried senior couples has increased 60% in the last decade. Still relatively small at 280,000 couples over age 65 in 2006, according to Census. Most elders do marry, not cohabitate.

Cohabitation has become a substitute for marriage. A bad substitute!

The rate of divorce for those that choose to cohabitate before marriage is 80%. “If you dream of marrying someday, don’t move in together,” or “Please move out of that cohabitating situation.

From: Living Together – Myths, Risks & Answers by Mike & Harriet McManus, Cofounders of Marriage Savers

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Cohabitors Tend to Be…….

Cohabitating couples tend to be younger

Cohabitors tend to be less educated

Cohabitors tend to have lower incomes

Cohabitors tend to be more liberal

Cohabitors tend to be less religious

Cohabitors tend to be less committed

Cohabitors tend to be more selfish

Approximately 58% of those who marry were living together (cohabitating), versus virtually none fifty years ago.

An astounding 70% of women in England currently cohabitate before marriage, compared to only 5% in the mid-1960s.

Cohabitors who marry are 50% more likely to divorce.

Cohabitation has diverted millions of people from ever getting married.

Living together unmarried is a trap. If it does lead to marriage, it does not lead to happy committed marriages.

Cohabitation has become a substitute for marriage. A bad substitute!

The rate of divorce for those that choose to cohabitate before marriage is about 80%. “If you dream of marrying someday, don’t move in together,” or “Please move out of that cohabitating situation.

From: Living Together – Myths, Risks & Answers by Mike & Harriet McManus, Cofounders of Marriage Savers

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The Unpleasant Truth About Cohabitation

As children we sang a nursery rhyme:

 

Bob and Bettie sitting in a tree

K-I-S-S-I-N-G

First comes love,

Then comes marriage,

Then comes baby in a baby carriage.

 

Today this nursery rhyme should be sung:

 

First comes sex,

Then comes living together,

Then comes pregnancy,

Then comes abortion or a baby,

Then half split

While some marry.

Of those who do,

Two-thirds divorce.

 

America has moved from a culture of marriage to a culture of cohabitation. Living together has become the dominant way American couples start their life together.

In just 2 generations the number of cohabitating couples has sky-rocketed, from 439,000 to 5.4 million (not including gay couples). This number only represents couples cohabitating in a given month. Over the course of a year, the numbers may be 8 to 10 million.

By contrast, only 2.23 million marriages were recorded in 2005. Thus, more than twice as many couples are living together outside of wedlock at any moment as marry in a whole year.

Cohabitation has become a substitute for marriage. A bad substitute!

The rate of divorce for those that choose to cohabitate before marriage is about 80%. “If you dream of marrying someday, don’t move in together,” or “Please move out of that cohabitating situation.

From : Living Together – Myths, Risks & Answers by Mike & Harriet McManus, Cofounders of Marriage Savers

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Cohabitation – Different Expectations

Rarely do cohabitating couples discuss their underlying motivations for cohabitating. The only things both partners have likely agreed upon is that living together would save on rent. Often the woman views cohabitation as a stepping-stone to marriage. She presumes her boyfriend feels the same way. But men usually choose to live with women essentially for convenience – available sex and shared expenses. Such differing expectations inevitably lead to conflict.

Cohabitation  has become a substitute for marriage. A bad substitute!

“If you dream of marrying someday, don’t move in together,” or “Please move out of that cohabitating situation.

From: Living Together – Myths, Risks & Answers by Mike & Harriet McManus, Cofounders of Marriage Savers

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