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NATIONAL EX SPOUSE DAY is Today

Ex Spouse Day is observed annually on April 14th.  This day recognizes one’s ex spouse. National Ex-Spouse Day

The question has been asked as to why would one want to celebrate their Ex??  We are not sure there is a good answer to that question.

For a wide variety of reasons, sometimes marriages just do not work out.  Recent statistics show that the divorce rate for first marriages is at 50 percent.  Some people find that they actually get along better after a divorce than they did during the marriage.  Unfortunately, all divorces do not turn out that friendly and can the experience can be very painful and traumatic.

Regardless if it is a friendly separation or not, there needs to be a way to manage the situation when children are involved. After a divorce or separation it is now all about parenting the children. It is all about taking the high road in your interaction with your ex spouse.

National Ex Spouse Day is meant to be a day of reflection and to encourage ex spouses to release anger or resentment.

HISTORY

National Ex Spouse Day was created in 1987 by Reverend Ronald Coleman of Kansas City, Mo.

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Family

Family is family, no matter what you are going through.  We all need family no matter how much we believe that not to be the case.  Family is about blood and blood is as they say, thicker than water.  Family is about loving even in times of disagreement and discontent.  It’s about caring even when it’s last on your want to do list.  Family is not just about birth relations, it’s about much, much more.  Family is a feeling, a comfort level, a wanting to be a part of and wanting to be with.  Family is more than just about money, grades, stuff, feelings, jealousies and missed trusts.  Family is never perfect, none ever are.  It’s about forgiveness, helping, needing, growing up, learning, sharing, making mistakes and saying “I’m sorry” and “I love you”.  Family is about life.  Life has its ups and downs; family has its ups and downs.  Family is about accepting, no matter what.  It’s about reunions and shared experiences and stories that last through generations.  Nothing perfect, that’s what family is. US and WE!

“Families are like fudge – mostly sweet with a few nuts.” Unknown

“The family.  We were a strange little band of characters trudging through life sharing diseases and toothpaste, coveting one another’s desserts, hiding shampoo, borrowing money, locking each other out of our rooms, inflicting pain and kissing to heal it in the same instant, loving, laughing, defending, and trying to figure out the common thread that bound us all together.”

Erma Bombeck

“To us, family means  putting your arms around each other and being there.”   Barbara Bush

“In time of test, family is best.”

Super Single Parent Conference

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Super Single Parent Conference

Olive Baptist Church – Pensacola, FL

Friday & Saturday, May 1-2

It’s tough being a single parent. James Cruise knows this all too well. Many years ago James lost his wife to a car accident, leaving him solely responsible for three young children. You have the opportunity to hear his story and learn from his struggles.

How can you take care of your children, take care of yourself and still find time to follow Christ’s leading in your life? Find out by joining us May 1-2 to hear from James Cruise, our guest speaker, at the Become A Super Single Parent Conference. The cost for the conference is $10. Payment envelopes can be picked up at the registration table in the foyer, all singles classes, the Singles office and the Main office. Scholarships are available by contacting the Singles office at 850-475-1147.

The Friday evening session begins at 7:00pm with heavy hors d’oeuvres. Saturday morning begins at 8:30am with a continental breakfast being offered. The event will be held in the Blue Room (#4100).

Free childcare will be provided for birth through fifth grade, but only for those registered by April 22. Pre-registered children can be checked in at the Simmons Building 15 minutes before the event starts and picked up immediately at the close of both sessions.

http://olivebaptist.org/singles

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Split Decisions: Author Fights Divorce Rate Myth

Is it possible, reporters are asking, that everything we’ve been told about marriage and divorce is wrong? Shaunti Feldhahn thinks so. The Harvard-trained researcher spent the last eight years trying to get to the bottom of the data on broken marriages — and the results might shock you. We’ve all heard the statistic that half of all marriages end in divorce. Not so fast, says Feldhahn, who lays out the argument in her new book (The Good News about Marriage) that the actual divorce rate isn’t even close to that number.

Like most sociologists, Shaunti says she’s “stood up on stage and said every one of those wrong statistics.” Now, she’s on a mission to correct those assumptions. If anything, she points out, the divorce rate is dropping. “First-time marriages: probably 20 to 25% have ended in divorce on average,” she explains. “There is no such thing as a 50% divorce rate. It’s never been close. Right now,” she tells Billy Hallowell of The Blaze, “…72% of people are still married to their first spouse — that’s Census Bureau data.”

At the very least, Feldhahn estimates, the divorce rate is 27-50% lower than people think. “Starting in the 1970s — that’s when those projections started — when no fault divorce started, the divorce rate skyrocketed. Suddenly, there was this explosion in divorce… it has fallen according to the crude divorce rate… 32% since 1980.”

What’s more, she says the comparisons between the church and general society are an absolute myth. “The divorce rate dropped by 27% between those who went to church last week.” One of Shaunti’s favorite things is shocking people with the news that 80% of marriages are happy. “The sense of futility itself pulls down marriages. And the problem is we have this culture-wide feeling of futility about marriage. It’s based on all these discouraging beliefs and many of them just aren’t true.” I don’t know about you, but I could use some good news on our culture — and the Good News about Marriage is exactly that!

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