For some, it’s an unpopular passage of Scripture. We find it in 2 Corinthians 6:14-16, and it reads: “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?”
Those may be tough words to swallow, but God included them in His Word for a purpose. “How can you be intimately, psychologically, spiritually, physically involved with a man or woman who does not say ‘Jesus is Lord,’ a man or woman who doesn’t love your Savior?”
Marriage is a union between a man and woman at every level of life. To not have the most fundamental thing in common will sooner or later become apparent, especially after children arrive.
At many a wedding I have attended I have witnessed where either the Groom or the Bride is a Christian (Believer & Follower of Jesus Christ) and the other is not a Christian. The Believer will always tell you that they can change the nonbeliever into a believer. But this rarely happens. What almost always happens is that the non-believer wins out. The newly married couple will rarely, if ever, attend church, rarely, if ever, pray together, rarely, if ever, read the Bible together, and rarely, if ever attend Christian events together. This is just the way it turns out.
When we ignore or do not follow God’s word we are asking for things to happen to us that God does not want in our lives. There are consequences to not following God’s word and teachings. God knows what is best for us. Especially in our choosing of a lifelong marriage mate.
Please know that dating and marriage when kids are present is a gain for the parents but initially a loss for the kids (until family bonding takes place—which can take years—and then becomes a gain for the kids, too). Ron Deal
|Today is National Stepfamily Day.
National Stepfamily Day to all you Blending, Blended or Stepfamilies.
Stepfamilies are people who have intentionally chosen to love their spouses biological children and family relatives.
33% of all marriages each year are to remarriages
1300 new stepfamilies are forming every day
40% of couples with children are step-couples
75% of those divorced remarry
100 million people in the US have a step-relationship of some kind.
VIEW this Stepfamily Video
Ministries for Step, Blended & Blending Families
Smart Stepfamilies www.smartstepfamilies.com
Books for Step, Blended & Blending Families
The Smart Step-Family by Ron L. Deal
The Smart Stepmom by Ron L. Deal & Laura Petherbridge
The Smart Stepdad by Ron L. Deal
Life In a Blender—A Guide for Kids by Ron L. Deal
Loving Your Stepfamily by Dr. Donald R Partridge & Jenetha G. Partridge
Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott
Making Your Second Marriage A First-Class Success by Doug and Naomi Moseley
Living In a Step-Family Without Getting Stepped On by Dr. Kevin Leman
When Your Parent Remarries Late in Life by Terri P. Smith with James M. Harper, PH.D.
God Breathes on Blended Families – Second Edition (2009) by Moe & Paige Becnel
God Breathes on Blended Families – Second Edition (2009) Workbook by Moe & Paige Becnel