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Take time for YOURSELF!

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Today – Now

Become a Super Single Parent

Surviving Tough Times

Today is the most important day in your life because it is the only day you are assured of.

Tomorrow may not come.

Live in the NOW.  Enjoy each “now” moment.

Yesterday is in the past.  Never to be again!

Make today count for something worthwhile.

Do something for someone today.  Someone who can’t return your kindness…

Live is an “action” verb.

Help make someone a better day.

Love someone today.

Someone is: You, your children, others.

Today is tomorrow’s yesterday.

“Don’t let yesterday use up too much of today.” Will Rogers

Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed.”   Dr. Wayne Dyer


You are a Star

Become a Super Single Parent

Surviving Tough Times

In the Bible it says that you are made in the image of God and that He even knows the number of hairs on your head. No matter what event or events have happened to you in life you are still special, very special. You are not defined by the events in your life but by who you are. It doesn’t get any better than that!

Bad Day – Good Life

Become a Super Single Parent

So you’re having a bad day – it will be over soon.

Everybody has bad days – even single parents.

Your children may be having a bad day, too.

A good life is made up of both good days and bad days – usually more good than bad.

Having a bad day – it too shall pass!

“Try again.  Fail again.  Fail better.”     Samuel Beckett

“I think in terms of the day’s resolutions, not the years’.”   Henry Moore

“I had the blues because I had no shoes until upon the street, I met a man who had no feet.”  Denis Waitely

“This too, shall pass.”    William Shakespeare

Jealousy – It Only Hurts You

Jealousy of others will ruin your life.

Jealousy of your Ex spouse serves no useful purpose.

Don’t let your situation make you jealous of those close to you.

Jealousy eats at you from the inside, eventually destroying you.

Let go of your jealousy so you can be a whole, happy person again.

It’s possible – Promise!

“Envy is the art of counting the other fellow’s blessings instead of your own.”

                                    Harold Coffin


“Jealousy is the tie that binds, and binds, and binds.”

                                                                                    Helen Rowland

“To cure jealousy is to see it for what it is,

a dissatisfaction with self.”

                                                                                    John Didion


You Will Improve!

You will be OK.

Your self-esteem may have suffered.

Now is a time for you to be positive in both your thoughts and your actions.

Go at your pace as much as possible.

It might take you some time to adjust but you will adjust and learn that your being a single parent is going to be rewarding, enlightening and enjoyable.

With time, will come an ability to move forward and attack your situation.

You will be alright.  I promise.


“This too, shall pass.”

                                                                     William Shakespeare


“Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength…”

                                                                                                                 Isaiah 40:31


Exercise – Stay Healthy (Both for you and your children)

Physical exercise is one of the smartest and positive things you can do for yourself and your children.

EXERCISE!  Just do it!

Find a physical activity that you enjoy.

Exercise while waiting on your children, while they practice or do homework.

Join an exercise club, YMCA, YWCA or see if your church has an exercise class.

Find a friend, neighbor, work mate or one of your children to exercise with.

Walk with your children.  What a great way to get to interact with your children.

Your children need to exercise too.

Exercise at least 30 minutes, 4 days a week.

Pick a time to walk in your neighborhood or at the park that fits your schedule.  Choose a time either in the morning, at lunch time or in the evening.  Walk at least 30 minutes.

Becoming a healthy person – you also become a better parent!

Your BMI (Body Mass Index) will help determine whether or not you or your children are over weight.  Multiply your weight (lbs) by 705, then divide by height (inches) twice.

Underweight              less than 18.5

Healthy                       18.5 – 24.9

Overweight                 25 – 29.9

Obese                                    over 30

If you exercise, it won’t take long before you will feel new energy rising up in you.

You WILL feel better…  Guaranteed!


“Those who think they have not time for bodily exercise will sooner or later have to find time for illness.”

                                                                                                           Edward Stanley


“A man’s health can be judged by which he takes

 two at a time – pills or stairs.”

                                                                     Joan Welch




Praise Yourself

You are wonderful!

Always remember it!

Don’t take yourself for granted.

You need to be praised, also.

Praising yourself is good for you.

Everyone needs to be praised.

We all want to feel good.

You want to feel good.

You can’t praise yourself enough!


“Praise is like sunlight to the human spirit:

we cannot flower and grow without it.”

                                                                        Jess Lair



Do something good for yourself, instead of for your kids.

You’ll be a better parent for it.

You’re children will appreciate you for it.

It’s great for your health.

Breathe deep – 3 times – now, didn’t that feel good!

Now Laugh.  Ha, ha, ha…

Try this with your children.  It’s fun to all Smile and Laugh TOGETHER…

“Smile, breathe and go slowly.”   Thich Nhat Hanh

“Breathe. Let go. And Remind yourself that this very moment is the only

one you know, you have for sure.”  Oprah Winfrey


Juggling Act

Sometimes you have a feeling of having too much to do and far too little time to do it.

It’s a learned talent, that juggling your time thing.

Others before you have learned it – you will too.

Roll with the punches.

You will be required to wear many different hats as a single parent:

  • Chef’s hat
  • Coaches hat
  • Cheerleader hat
  • Referee hat
  • Paramedic hat
  • Disciplinarian hat

Sometimes you will be required to wear two or more hats at the same time.

Life is a juggling act.  Work at it, persevere and eventually you will master it.

“Most of us have trouble juggling. The woman who says she doesn’t is someone whom I admire but have never met.”

                                                                                              Barbara Walters


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